Californian wives have started to hire hitmen to kill off their husbands rather than face the idea that their husbands could benefit from a lucrative divorce settlement. This problem has gotten so bad that Californian politicians (headed up by Governor of California the original Terminator Hitman Arnold Schwarzenegger) are trying to find ways to stop women resorting to such methods.

The new laws that Californian politicians are trying to move forward came about after the problem was highlighted when police detective John Pomroy was plotted against by his wife to be murdered. The L.A. Police detective  was having what can only be described as a ‘difficult break up’ from his wife, who hired an infamous motorcycle gang in the area, the Vagos, to kill Pomroy whilst he was on duty.

Her plan fell through due to the fact that the men she approached to kill her husbandwere undercover police officers who then arrested her. This came about in 2003 when she pleaded guilty of solciting others to murder her husband.

It seems however Mrs Pomroy was not the only woman in California to want her husband dead although her case has been the ost public and luckily for Detective Pomroy fell through. Mr Pomroy contacted politicians after his ordeal to let them hear his story and also wants to make sure if you are found guilty of attempted murder you cannot benefit in a divorce settlement as his wife recieved half of their assets (up to £50,000).

The current la in California does not allow anyone convicted of attempting to murder their spouse from benefiting from a divorce however, if they hire  third party like in the Pomroy case they can still benefit. In most cases in California if a couple split their assets are spit 50/50 between the couple.

Have you ever wanted to hire a hitman to get rid of your ex? What are your thoughts on this story? Share your views on the My Mad Ex Divorce forum.

Charlotte Church and Gavin Henson have recently spit up but it looks like the separation is taking its toll on celebrity Charlotte Church as the ‘Over the Rainbow’ judge stepped out yesterday looking skinny and tired.

Charlotte and Gavin were engaged to be married but split a few weeks ago leaving Charlotte with their two children Dexter, 1, and Ruby, 2. Whilst Gavin seems to be coping well, travelling with his Rugby team and focussing on the sport, Charlottes friends are worried that the separation is taking its toll on the new single mum.

Although the coulple have been quiet about their split earlier this month, rumours have circulated and breaking up is very hard on anyone especially if you are in the public eye. Charlotte and Gavin must have come to a point in their relationship where they though they have to split up and that could not have been an easy decision. However, as Gavin gets to go off with his Rugby mates it is Charlotte that is left holding the babies and being a single mum is a lot harder than people realise especially with 2 very young children.

Charlotte went to a garage in Cardiff yesterday and got snapped with her hair scaped back and no make up, she looks thin and her health could be at risk, it is no wonder her friends and family are worried, but having your photo taken at every opportunity cannot be helping.

What advise would you give to Charlotte Church at this time? Do you think the paparazzi should leave her alone or is it all just what she signed up for when she chose her lifestyle? If you are in a similar position to Charlotte church perhaps you want to share your story with others on our divorce forum?

I’m a Celebrity and Atomic Kitten star Kerry Katona is facing what could be a very messy divorce from her estranged husband Mark Croft. Mark is planning to divorce the  I’m A Celebrity star on grounds that she is unreasonable and her addictions have runied there marriage.

Mark Croft, the former cabbie, claims that Kerry Katona’s drink and drug binges were so wild that they destroyed their marriage, and many of her public appearances seem to back this up as she famously embarrased her self on talk shows and breakfast shows where she appeared to be under the influence..

Since the couple split Kerry has been publicly working hard to improve her image  with help from her management and celebrity friends such as Peter Andre. She has started a new health regime and had plastic surgery to remove excess weight to help her confidence during this time.

It seems that Mark Croft has a good case as Kerry’s behavour certainly backs up his claims but the divorce proceedures will no doubt get messy as the former Atomic Kitten is allegedly blaming Croft getting her hooked on cocaine and booze, thus wrecking the marriage. It is very difficult to see what has happened in their relationship but the cringeworthy reality TV shows they appeared in were obvious that the couple were in a destructive relationship but this hurt and heartache looks set for the long haul as neither party wants to be to blame for the break up of the marriage.
Kerry told the press:

“Our relationship was just about coke. I had to stop. I had to get out.”

However, we expect that Mark will be sharing his side of the story very soon as he has already contacted his lawyers about puttingout his version of what happened and revealing his experiences of the marriage.Many are suspecting that Mark will reveal Kerry was unbearable to live with due to her addiction to alcohol and cocaine, Mark knows that this is very believable as many peoples relationships break down from addictions as peoples personalities can change and Kerry has a reputation for being unreasonable at the best of times with ‘diva’ type demands on the sets of the Iceland adverts.

It looks like Mark wil really hit Kerry where it hurts in his statements adding that she was incapable of acting like a caring and loving mother to her children and was unwilling to have sex with him, contributing to the breakdown of the relationship.

Croft is reported to have told a friend: “I’m looking at divorcing Kerry for her unreasonable behaviour whatever the f*** else she decides to say.

“Once she got on the coke and booze Kerry ceased to function as a wife and mother as far as I’m concerned.

“In fact it turned her into a living nightmare no husband should have to put up with. It made our marriage a complete and utter sham.”

What do you think of Kerry and Marks Divorce? Should Mark have been a better husband? Is it all Kerry’s fault? Did your relationship break down because of drugs or alcohol? Discuss celebrity separations or your own stories at the My Mad Ex Divorce Forum.

Last week the US government have put motions in place to making the legal process for getting a divorce much easier, the new government have proposed to include “irretrievable breakdown” as one of the four grounds that would legally justify a divorce.

The government is also looking at drafting a Bill to address the missuse of the new flexibility in the law, this will be battled out in the new parliament as they battle out many of the existing laws and re define many legislations.

The biggest changes look to affect the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, this also covers Buddhists, Jains and Sikhs, and the Special Marriage Act, 1954. At the moment, divorce can be justified under Hindu marriage laws on grounds such as adultery, desertion, cruelty, frustration arising from specific circumstances and mutual consent. These changes are a reflection on the wy that the Indian culture is progressing, especially in urban India where divorce rates are rising. The current laws are very rigid and from this escalate into very long drawn out and bitter divorce battles. These new laws will help clear up space in the court rooms as well as helping comunities live together in better harmony after the break down of a relationship.

These changes have been requested from the courts as the apex court have called for the government to amend the law allowing irretrievable breakdown as a just cause for divorce. This has been backed up twice by the Law Commission.

We are not sure how these changes will affect the UK but the changes look to be well supported in the US. What do you think? Would an easier Divorce process help you and your family come to a more amicable split? Would you have a better relationship with your ex if you didn’t have to battle it our in court? To give your point of view comment below or join the dicsussion on My Mad Ex Divorce and separation forum.

Shania Twain and music producer Robert John “Mutt” Langehave finalised there divorce, say reports today. The couple that got married in December 1993 split in 2008 after Langehave was caught cheating. But it seems not only has the divorce been finalised but Shania Twain has moved on as she is escorted by new lover Frederic Thiebaud.
Twain’s 14-year relationship with Lange ended 2 years ago in May 2008 when he had an affair with Shania’s friend Marie-Anne Thiebaud. Shania Twain is said to be “radiantly happy” now the separation is finalised and was made official in Switzerland, she is looking forward to moving on and getting on with her life. And with her new bloke Frederic she looks happier than ever!

“Shania and Fred are a couple that fit together. Things are getting really serious with Fred,” a friend said. Twain has previously admitted she wanted to “go away and disappear” when her marriage ended.

“I feel like in a way I’m starting over, with everything.. I was in a very deep, dark slump, and I needed to find a way to get myself out of it. I had to force myself back out into life, back out into experiencing things,” Twain had said.

“There were moments when I really just thought, ‘I don’t need anything and I don’t need anyone. I just want to go away and disappear.’ So, that was a bad slump,” she added.

Many people who have been through a divorce or separation will be able to relate to Twain and it must have been terrible to have to add the betrayal of her friend Mary Anne who is still in a relationship with Twains ex. Although things seemed to turn out all right as Shania Twains new partner is Mary Anne’s ex!

Have you ever been in a tricky situation like this? How did you move on from your divorce or are you still learning to cope? Share your stories on our Divorce forum and meet other people in the same situation as you.

This is a great video we found for single men trying to get over their ex, it is a quick presentation on some handy tips to help you move on from a separation or divorce. This ideo has some harsh lessons and tells you straight how you need to behave and focuses a lot on letting go and finding better healthier ways to direct your energy.

This video is focussing on men only but many of the lessons will certainly apply to many women and by following the advice it may top you from crossing the line to being a Mad Ex yourself!

This video isn’t necessary for everyone as many people deal with a break up in a different way but if you are having problems moving on, you cannot accept the break up and are getting very jealous. You can use these tips to help feel empowered and move on, he also discusses how as a parent their may be exceptions to the rules as you have to protect your childrens best interest.

What do you think of this video? Good advice or too general? If you need more help you can ask our resident experts in our My Mad Ex Forum and they can help you get over your break up in a healthy way specific to you.