When you are going through a divorce or separation you start looking for Divorce advice online, but not all advice is the same here are a few types of advice we have come across and how you should deal with each.

Expert Divorce Advice

Expert Divorce advice can be anything from emotional advice to legal advice and being an expert they have some form of accreditation or qualification that will back up their advice. If you need legal advice for your divorce only use recommended websites and forums or speak directly to a legal advisor face to face. If you use an expert divorce website or forum remember that their advice is only valid to you if they know all the facts if an expert only has a limited piece of information from your situation their advice will not always be applicable to your situation.

Shared advice

Shared advice comes when someone has a shared experience to you, My Mad Ex has a lot of people online who can offer shared advice, they can also act as a sympathetic ear. This type of advice is great for helping you feel less isolatied and alone, by comparing your experiences and solutions you can gain some perspective which helps you move on. However be aware that any advice from someone who is not qualified is not 100% reliable and should not be a substitue for legal or psychological advice. Also very few circumstances will be exactly the same so even if there are similarities make sure you understand the differences especially if the solution that worked for one person won’t work for you. Try to look at the positives from shared advice such as a shoulder to lean on and someone who can share your rant

Advice you don’t want to hear

Sometimes in a separation you can get so involved in your own feelings you lose some sight of reality, this is not unusual and does not mean you are a mad ex, but often online we discuss ways in which we have acted and don’t get the support we want. Don’t get upset by this as people do not know you and your circumstances, sometimes it is good to hear objective opinions but other times it can be hurtful. When you read things online you cannot tell the tone of voice as easily and things can be taken out of context, if you are depressed or in a bad place already this can be taken badly and be very upsetting. If you hear something like this then think about the source, they do not know you and are probably only trying to help, at different stages of your healing you will cope differently to feedback. Remember they are not experts and they probably don’t know the full contect of your situation, however if some of it rings true it may be worth considering.

All types of advice are subjective to the amount of information the advisor has, searching online can help give you support, move on and meet people. However, you may need professional help which you will not find on websites or forums. If you need help moving on try our divorce forum, chat with our members and ask the experts advice on money, getting fit and general well being.